6 Things Single People Want to Say to Their Friends in Relationships
Every single person has at least one friend in a relationship who may cross one or two of our single life boundaries. The single person doesn’t always say what he or she is thinking or feeling during these moments, but the below 6 points capture the unfiltered (well somewhat, as my first draft was deemed much too raw) thoughts that go through every single persons' mind.
1) Stop assuming we’re okay third wheeling every time you ask us to hang out. Even if we love your significant other, you need to give us notice prior. If you ask us to do something and already know your boyfriend or girlfriend will be joining, just tell us.
2) When we do have to third wheel (which we are perfectly fine doing every now and then) please keep the kissing/ making out/ being “coupley” to a minimum. It’s awkward when we’re in the middle of dinner and you begin kissing each other. We then are pressured to either 1) grab our phones and start scrolling thru Instagram so we don’t look creepy af looking at you both kiss or 2) talk to the unfortunate looking stranger at the bar that’s been staring at us all night.
3) Just because you’re in a relationship does not mean you became Dr.Phil overnight. Being in one current relationship (well hopefully) does not make you an expert. Please refrain from offering unsolicited advice on all the things we’re doing wrong unless we ask you. What works for your relationship doesn’t necessarily apply to every other persons.
4) If we tell you something that means we want you to know; not your boyfriend or girlfriend who may or may not be laying next to you while we’re on the phone. What we mean by this is, stop sharing our business unless we say otherwise. Your boyfriend doesn’t need to know how long it took us to get in our pants that morning or how many dates we’ve gone on in the last month. If we wanted to be best friends with your significant other we would be.
5) We know everyone loves to go on double dates. If you want to hook us up with your boyfriend or girlfriend’s friends, we NEED receipts. The single man typically just wants to know what she looks like and that she’s not crazy. The single woman wants to know what they do. What he looks like? What’s their story? Why are they single? We basically want to avoid the “this could blow up in flames” and make your own friendships uncomfortable or have the awkward encounter at your future wedding.
6) Lastly and most importantly, we are genuinely happy for you! As your friend, we want the best for you and are glad you found someone who makes you happy. Preferably, when we like that person. In fact, we'd like to request open bar and seating next to another fellow good looking single person at your future wedding.
-B